If any changes to the law are proposed that might affect my business I intend to write about them here.
Paying for sexual services is perfectly legal in the UK.
And I hope it stays this way.
My clients are respectable, law abiding, citizens. They are tax payers and voters (as am I). There is nothing wrong or immoral in what we do. A great service is provided and people are happy to pay for that. We’re all happy.
While this is all legal, if anything untoward happens we can go to the police or take action through the civil courts.
I am strongly oppose to proposals to criminalise sex work in the UK which will make the service more dangerous for workers and clients by driving it underground. Criminals will thrive, whilst law abiding citizens will suffer.
I would urge anyone interested in paying for sexual services of any kind, including my massage, to oppose the Nordic Model (which makes paying for sex a crime and therefore may criminalise clients and make it less safe for all of us). It is a backward step. Let your MP know you are strongly against the Nordic Model because it doesn’t help anyone. It is like anti-abortion laws that do not stop abortion they make it illegal and more dangerous, the Nordic Model will simply make buying and selling sexual services covert and dangerous. It is a step backwards for the UK, which is a tolerant, open society.
We may all think of tantric lingam massage, escort services and prostitution as very different things. I don’t think my clients think of me as a prostitute and many specifically say they do not want to see an escort of have sex - so clearly that is not how they see my service.
In a legal sense, however, all that I have read suggests that laws relating to prostitution will relate to any activity intended for sexual arousal - so tantric massage could be effected by changes in the law.
Currently there are NO changes looming.
The All-Party Parliamentary Group on Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade - The clue is in the title. They seem to be interested in people travelling the world because of the sex trade (yes a bad thing - perhaps) but mixing it up with adults like myself who have stayed in my own country and have positively chosen to work independently providing a sexual service.
They published a report in March 2014 called Shifting the Burden- download it from their website.
They are concerned about women who become prostitutes through force and a terrible history of drugs, violence, abuse, kidnapping and global trafficking. These are certainly terrible things that need to be tackled. The APPG suggest men who pay for sex with these women should be criminals, and that is the case already in the UK in many situations.
The APPG did not take on board that these women are a tiny minority of the women in the UK employed in providing sexual services. The vast majority of women who provide sexual in the UK are not “walking the streets” or hooked on drugs. They are not doing the work against their will and have positively chosen to do that sort of work. The APPG did not seek out evidence from British women who are self employed, have happily chosen to do sex work and would like to continue to do so (and pay taxes, and work in safe places, and enjoy their work, and have lovely clients). The APPG sought evidence via organisations that help the most vulnerable women would want to leave a career of prostitution (such as homeless drug users).
The APPG propose Paying for Sex should be a criminal activity, that would include any activity that is intended to sexually arouse, yes, my massages.
The implication being I could offer a lingam massage but clients could not pay for them! Obviously that would take us in to that silly place where I would charge to give you a massage but the sexual pleasure part of it we would have to describe as an additional free activity between consenting adults. Not satisfactory for either of us - I like to tell you what you will get for your money.
Fortunately the APPG on Prostitution seem to be a minority who are heavily influenced by certain religious values and are not in line with popular public opinion. As trafficking and modern slavery in the UK has become an issue, raised in the Queen’s speech in June 2014 and to be tackled before the 2015 election we must watch out that turning my clients into criminals does not get tacked on to this. My clients are not involved in vile activities that exploit and oppress women.
Most people in the UK believe consenting adults should be able to engage in sexual activity and exchange money or gifts in any way they choose, we just need to remind our MPs of this.