Yoni Lingam Massage in Kent

A few of my clients are upset by their own performance.
They were hoping for something different from their own bodies. Be realistic about your expectations. I will not judge you and I have no expectations. This is a random collection of thoughts about the performance possibilities and problems that I see.

There is a difference between orgasm and ejaculation. Just to clarify...

Orgasm is what feels good throughout your body, ejaculation is the mess. Some men orgasm without the messy bit because they have learnt to do that. Some of my clients, however, experience orgasm without ejaculating due to physical health problems/ operations.

Erection difficulties.

Most of my clients are aged 50+ and most of my clients do not maintain erections for extended periods of time. Many men cannot get an erection at all.

I strongly urge you to not think about an erection as a goal - after all you do not need one, we are not going to be having sex. Shut your eyes so you can't see and just think and feel. Does it feel good to you? You are not touching your penis, I am touching it, how does that feel?

Difficulty reaching orgasm.

I suspect this happens to most people sometimes.

If this is something that is a frequent problem for you some strategies to help might be:

(a) do not aim for orgasm (enjoy the journey and don't focus on the destination)

(b) practise - see other answers.

Any performance problems.


A few clients have no sexual experience outside of that with the therapist (such as myself) you must practice on your own or with a partner.

Sexual activity is similar to other sports if you want to improve performance. Athletes do not just run a monthly half marathon, they jog shorter distances several times a week.

Lingam Massage and Orgasm

You should not feel under any pressure to reach an orgasm or to prevent one. The session will not end just because this happens. Most clients will have one or more orgasms in the session.

An Equal Status Naturist Massage

For a Lingam massage the client will be naked. The therapist does not have to be nude but some clients prefer a naked therapist, this is called an Equal Status Naturist Massage.

I am usually happy to be naked for the session if you prefer an Equal Status naturist experience. I may begin the massage in my uniform whilst you are on your stomach but remove my clothes before you turn over.